Did You Learn to Love?

Before I begin, I would like to preface this note by stating that this note is written for Christians. I would also like to make clear that I do not endorse gay marriage nor do I endorse mindless activism in the name of God. Rather, I must align my heart and mind with the life and character of Jesus.

Deep sadness and disgust are merely an understatement to the way I feel when thinking about the recent wave of slack-tivism (slacker activism) surrounding the Chick-fil-A controversy. I was curious as to why all of the sudden I was seeing post after post about eating at Chick-fil-A in support of traditional marriage. After researching the topic and understanding its background it was clear that, in its present form, the situation has unnecessarily become bloated for all the wrong reasons.

I am all for protecting and taking a stand for marriage as instituted by the Lord. It seems that many others share this same view, but their method of communicating it seems rather tainted. It is all too easy to jump on the bandwagon and feed your stomach (or ego) a chicken sandwich but when it comes to actually ministering the Love of God to the homosexual community, women who have had abortions, or the high-school student who gets abused at home the church is largely absent.

This begs us to take a step back and look at “our” Christianity and see if it is actually centered around Jesus and His Love for all or is it teetering on political hype and ignorance like a bad game of Jenga? Remember, God’s ways are higher than ours; always.

As Christians, we are commissioned by the Lord to preach the Gospel and make disciples so it is in our nature to want to convert others to our faith. However, you can’t beat someone into the Kingdom of God, or protest them in, or chicken sandwich them in, or convince them with the most “compelling” of arguments; we must LOVE people into the Kingdom of God.

Jesus’ message was not to, “go ye therefore and hate all the right things” neither was it, “go ye therefore and become all inclusive regardless of right or wrong.” We have a responsibility as believers to be quick to love and careful yet wise in taking a firm stance for the truth of the Gospel. ANY, and I mean ANY, type of action we take in the name of God that doesn't start from the vantage point of the Love of Jesus is Humanism at best.

When we stand before the Lord He will not ask us how large our ministries grew, or how much money we were able to raise, or what our voting record was but rather, He will ask us, “Did you learn to Love?” Proverbs 27:19 tells us that just as we can see the reflection of our face in water so the reflection of our hearts are seen by who we are. If you didn’t have a heart for the lost in the first place, how does a chicken sandwich really change that? Oh, that’s right; it doesn’t.

Since the gay community already sees the church as an angry mob of haters and bashers, this does nothing more than solidify their own thoughts and further push away any attempts at presenting the Gospel; chalk one up for slacktivism. Now, the “us vs. them” paradigm is made even clearer; this was not the intent of the Gospel.

How can we as a Christian community be taken seriously on this issue when there’s such a large divorce rate amongst our demographic? Taking a stand for traditional marriage shouldn’t start with a chicken sandwich but rather it should start with us getting our act together and allowing Christ to be the chief cornerstone in our families and households; otherwise we just become double-minded and unstable in all of our ways.

Again, let me reiterate, I do not in any way endorse immoral lifestyles including that of homosexuality. However, our response to immorality shouldn’t look like a bunch of people with stones in hand but rather that of true humility that says, “none of us are without sin” and then casts away any stone of pride. Jesus showed mercy to the harlot when the pharisees brought her to Him, and she didn’t deserve it; but that’s how good of a God He is.

Our posture should shift away from a tall stance of pride and ignorance to bended knee and intercession that glorifies Jesus. We must ask the Lord to break our hearts for what breaks His. We must ask Him to peel away the stone from our hearts. In order to truly love as He loves we must lay down our own weak and broken understanding of Love and ask for a Spirit of Wisdom and Revelation to understand the depths of His Love. Let us ask for a heart of mercy, compassion rooted and grounded in the Love of Christ in order to properly minister to those who have not yet entered into His Love.

I've received some emails and calls and feel that I wasn't totally clear about a couple of things. Thank you to those who contacted me; I wish to communicate my thoughts in Love and in clarity. So, for the sake of clarity and understanding I would like to give a slight addendum.

I applaud Chick-fil-A for standing up for biblical values in the marketplace; brilliant! Why was I disgusted then? I was speaking to the apathy and current state of the church at large. The Chick-fil-A Appreciation day fueled political hype among the overwhelming majority of church goers, although I'm sure that wasn't the company's intent.

Try and look at this from the viewpoint of the homosexual community. Already, we are seen by them as bashers and haters. In order to understand this we need to ask these questions:
1.) Where was the church before Chick-fil-A day?
2.) In context to question 1, what was then communicated on Chick-fil-A day?
3.) Where is the church after the fact?

If all we can answer is that the majority of the church was clinging to politics like a security blanket, then surely the Love of Jesus was absent and more than likely still is. Taking a stand for our morals, values and rights is one thing (which is needed), but if the ministry of the Love of Christ isn't simultaneously active we're misrepresenting Jesus.

Homosexuals, women who have had abortions, and children who have been abused wouldn't be hurling accusations at the church out of woundedness if the church was already in a reality of ministering God's Love to anyone and everyone.

In short, my message is that activism should not look like bandwagoning and then going home the same way. Instead, activism should be two-fold:
1.) Ministering the Love of Jesus to anyone and everyone
2.) Prayer and fasting where Daniel 9 realities are taking place